He wasn’t Irish by birth. He was actually taken there as a slave when he was a teenager. For years he lived alone in the fields, tending sheep. It was there in suffering and loneliness that his faith awakened. Patrick later wrote that during that time he would pray constantly. He would pray hundreds of times a day. The hardship stripped everything away until only one thing remained: his dependence on God.

Eventually he escaped slavery and returned home. But years later, after becoming a priest, he felt God calling him back to the very land where he had once been enslaved - back to Ireland; back to the people who had taken everything from him. There he spent the rest of his life preaching Christ.

One of the most famous prayers connected to him is what’s called The Lorica of St. Patrick, sometimes known as St. Patrick’s Breastplate. A lorica was a piece of armor, a breastplate worn in battle.

It’s a prayer of spiritual protection.
A prayer of spiritual awakening.

And it begins with these words:

“I arise today
Through a mighty strength, the invocation of the Trinity,
Through belief in the Threeness,
Through confession of the Oneness
Of the Creator of creation.”

That opening line is powerful. “I arise today.” Not just physically getting out of bed. Spiritually rising. Awakening again to God. In many ways, that’s what Lent is meant to be. A season where we arise again. We return to prayer. We return to repentance. We return to the Lord. Patrick reminds us that we don’t rise by our own strength. We arise through the strength of God.

Later in the prayer he writes:

“I arise today
Through the strength of Christ’s birth and his baptism,
Through the strength of his crucifixion and his burial,
Through the strength of his resurrection and his ascension.”

Notice what Patrick is doing. He is rooting his life in the mysteries of Christ; his birth, his baptism, the carrying of the Cross and his Resurrection. In other words, Patrick understands something deeply Christian: our lives are carried by the life of Jesus; even our struggles. Yes, especially our struggles. This is why Lent focuses so intensely on the Cross. Because the Cross is not just something Jesus endured. It is the place where our lives meet his.

As St. Paul writes:

“I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me.”
—Galatians 2:20 (RSVCE)

Patrick then expands his prayer outward. He calls upon the entire communion of heaven:

“In the prayers of patriarchs,
In preachings of the apostles,
In faiths of confessors,
In innocence of virgins,
In deeds of righteous men.”

He knows he does not walk the Christian life alone. He walks it with the Church; with the saints, with those who have gone before him, and with those praying alongside him. This is one of the quiet gifts of Lent. We are not just individuals trying harder to be holy. We are a people journeying together toward Easter.

Then Patrick reaches the heart of the prayer—the line many people recognize:

“Christ with me, Christ before me, Christ behind me,
Christ in me, Christ beneath me, Christ above me…”

It continues like this for several lines.

Christ on my right.
Christ on my left.
Christ when I lie down.
Christ when I sit down.

What Patrick is doing here is beautiful. He is placing Christ everywhere. In every direction. In every moment. In every relationship. Christ surrounding him. Christ filling his life. This is what the spiritual life is meant to become. Not just moments of prayer, but a life permeated by Christ; a life where Christ becomes the air we breathe.

As Scripture says:

“In him we live and move and have our being.”
—Acts 17:28 (RSVCE)

Maybe that is the invitation of this Lenten season: to rediscover this prayer of Patrick; to wake up each day and quietly say:

“I arise today.”

Not in my strength. But in the strength of the Trinity; in the strength of Christ’s Cross.

In the strength of the saints who walk with us, and in the quiet confidence that Christ surrounds us— before us, behind us, above us, within us.

Wherever you are on your Lenten journey today—whether you feel strong in faith or weary in spirit—this prayer reminds us of something simple: you do not walk this road alone. Christ is already there. Before you. Behind you. Within you. Because of that, you can arise again today.

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You may have noticed that this Substack has a new name. What was once I See a Movement is now called the Draw Near Collective. But rest assured: the voices and hearts behind it remain the same.

So why the change?
The name Draw Near Collective reflects more faithfully who we are and what God is inviting us to do. It unites us with the Draw Near podcast and ministry more directly, and it points to our mission: to help people draw nearer to God and to one another.

In the Bible, name changes happen at significant points. These moments reveal God’s mission for that person more fully.

• Abram becomes Abraham: the father of a multitude of nations (Gen 17:5).

• Sarai becomes Sarah: the mother of nations (Gen 17:15).

• Jacob becomes Israel: the one who wrestles with God and of which the nation of Israel descends (Gen 32:28).

• Simon becomes Peter: the rock on which Christ will build His Church; that is, the first Pope (Mt 16:18).

• And Saul, though not formally renamed by God, is called Paul as he begins his mission to the Gentiles (Acts 13:9).

In each case, a new name was a divine turning point toward a new mission within God's saving plan.

For the Draw Near Collective, this new name points to a clearer mission, identity and sense of purpose. One that builds community, provides faithful Catholic formation in a variety of ways, and inspires others to fall deeply in love with Christ through meaningful, reflective content.

The vision of a “movement” hasn’t gone away. We fully believe that God is stirring hearts, renewing His Church, and raising up saints for our time. That hasn’t changed. But now, our name more clearly reflects how we hope to participate in that movement and answer God’s invitation. We must Draw Near… to God and to one another. And to the deep well of Catholic spirituality and truth.

We’re grateful you’re part of this journey. Whether you’ve supported us through prayer, encouragement, viewership, or paid subscriptions, we offer our sincerest “thank you.” Please continue walking with us under this new name, as we seek to draw near to the Lord and follow His will.

In this powerful and reflective episode of Draw Near, Kara invites you to explore the deeply personal and transformative nature of prayer as an intimate friendship with God. Using the story of Doubting Thomas in John 20, Kara reflects on how God responds to us when we ask, and gives us exactly what is needed. Jesus enters the locked rooms of our lives... those places we try to keep hidden.

You’ll be guided through a visual prayer meditation that helps you encounter Jesus in those very spaces. Is there a room in your life where you've closed the door on God? He’s already standing among you, ready to meet you with peace and transformation.

Whether you're seeking a deeper relationship with Jesus, struggling with doubt, or yearning for vulnerability in your spiritual life, this episode offers a quiet, sacred space to reconnect with the God who calls you friend.

Perfect for:
Catholics and Christians seeking to deepen their prayer life, grow in intimacy with God, or explore spiritual friendship, especially through Catholic meditation and imaginative prayer.

Discussion Questions for Reflection or Group Use:

In the visualization, what was it like in the room? What did you see, feel, or notice?

What locked door in your life is God asking you to open?

How is God calling you to grow closer to him in friendship?

Scripture for Meditation:
John 20:19–29 – Jesus appears to the disciples and to Thomas in the upper room.

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In this episode, Fred explores the readings for the Sixth Sunday of Easter and unpacks our identity as chosen people—called not just to believe, but to build. Drawing from Acts, Revelation, and John’s Gospel, we’ll dive into what it means to be part of something eternal and radiant: the Kingdom of God.

🔹 Discover how God is building his Church through us
🔹 Learn what it means to offer spiritual sacrifices in daily life
🔹 Be inspired to live your faith with peace, purpose, and unity

Whether you're new to the faith or a lifelong disciple, this episode will challenge and encourage you to take your place in God’s spiritual house.

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In this episode, we reflect on John 10 and Jesus’ words: “My sheep hear my voice; I know them, and they follow me.” We explore how to discern the voice of the Good Shepherd through prayer, silence, and Scripture—and we introduce insights from St. Ignatius of Loyola on the discernment of spirits to help you grow in spiritual clarity and trust. If you’re longing for peace, direction, or deeper intimacy with Christ, this conversation is for you.

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What does it really mean to be merciful? Is mercy just forgiveness, or something more? And in a world full of division, anxiety, and wounds, how can God’s mercy truly heal us and flow through us to others?

Together, we explore:

• How Scripture and the Catechism define mercy

• The surprising ways we’ve experienced God’s mercy in our lives

• Why mercy is essential to healing broken relationships—and how to live it

• Practical ways to grow in compassion, patience, and forgiveness (including with ourselves)

• Why mercy and truth must go hand-in-hand in today’s Church and culture

• A powerful story about St. Francis and rebuilding the Church with love and mercy

• What it means to show mercy without compromising truth

We also share personal stories of struggle, healing, and God’s never-ending patience, including a time of wrestling with anger toward God—and how mercy transformed it.
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It stings, doesn’t it?
Especially when your desire is simply to do good, to build up, to serve faithfully.
But this struggle isn't new. It's part of the human condition and Scripture has a lot to say about it.

The Temptation to Speak Ill: A Warning for All of Us
Before we talk about how to handle it when people treat us this way, we have to be honest: We, too, can be tempted to fall into this trap. James 3:5-6 warns, "The tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great exploits. How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire! And the tongue is a fire." Gossip. Backbiting. Criticism spoken without charity or the intention of being helpful or constructive. These things can destroy communities, friendships, families, and parishes faster than any external attack.

Jesus is even stronger in his warning: "I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they utter; for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned." — Matthew 12:36-37 That's serious. In fact… I find those words a little terrifying… I know some of the careless words I have used! It’s a sobering reminder that our words are not casual things. They have the power of life and death. (Proverbs 18:21)

It’s easy to criticize what we don’t fully understand. It’s easy to tear down what we didn’t have the courage to build ourselves. Its easy to cast judgment on what (or who) we don’t really know. But we are called higher. We are called to be builders, not destroyers. "Encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing." 1 Thessalonians 5:11

When You're the One Being Criticized
So what about when we are the target? When our work is misunderstood, our good intentions doubted, or our efforts belittled from a distance? First: Take it to prayer. Don't let the criticism fester in your heart. Bring it to the Lord. Ask: Is there any truth in this that I need to hear? Is this an area in which you are bringing forth the potential for growth? Or is this simply a call to deeper humility and trust?

Remember, even Jesus — perfect in every way — was misunderstood, accused falsely, and abandoned. "If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you." — John 15:18 If Christ suffered unfair criticism, we should not be surprised when we do too.

Second: Respond with charity, not resentment. We don't overcome gossip, slander, or unfairness by returning it. We overcome it by living above it.

"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." — Romans 12:21

"Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them." — Romans 12:14

Third: Find your affirmation in Christ, not the crowd. It’s tempting to seek validation from others. But the only validation that ultimately matters is the Lord's. If you're striving to be faithful to Him; that's enough. It is very human to need affirmation, and it is hard when we don’t receive it. But it is important to find rest in trusting in the Lord during these trials. I strongly recommend becoming friends with the Litany of Humility. Remember also that when others don’t see you, the Lord does! Unlike your accusers and naysayers, He knows your heart.

"Am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ." — Galatians 1:10

Some Practical Ways to Grow from the Experience

• Pray for those who criticize you. It transforms your heart, even if it doesn't change theirs.

• Thank God for hiddenness. When you're unseen or misunderstood, it strips away pride and deepens your dependence on Him.

• Ask the Holy Spirit for gentleness and wisdom. Sometimes silence is the best answer. Sometimes a gentle conversation is needed. Discern carefully.

• Stay rooted in your mission. Criticism can be a distraction. Remember why you started — and who you’re doing it for.

A Final Word of Encouragement
When you live your faith boldly... when you create, lead, serve, or love generously... Criticism will come. Sometimes fair. Sometimes unfair. Sometimes behind your back. Sometimes from those you least expect. But you are not alone. Jesus walks with you. He reminds you: "Blessed are you when people revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven." — Matthew 5:11-12

Stay faithful.
Stay humble.
Stay joyful.

Your Father sees in secret — and He delights in you.
That is more than enough.

Welcome to Draw Near Collective—a vibrant Substack community inspired by the beauty of faith, family, missionary discipleship, ministry, and shared journeys toward Christ. Our mission is simple: to ignite hearts with the love of God and to walk alongside you in practical and uplifting ways as we all draw near to Him and to one another. Rooted in authenticity, joy, and a passion for sharing God’s transformative love, Draw Near Collective offers a space where faith comes alive through heartfelt stories, reflections, and insights.

Who We Are: We are Fred and Kara, best friends, ministry leaders, and storytellers with over 28 years of combined ministry experience and co-hosts of the Draw Near podcast. More importantly, we are joined by the contributors to this collective – friends and colleagues with a wealth of insight and experience of their own. Together, we bring a deep love for Christ and a desire to empower others to live their faith fully by sharing reflections, wisdom, and practical tools to inspire and equip you on your journey of faith and service in ministry.

What You’ll Find Here:

• Inspiring Reflections: Personal stories and spiritual insights to encourage and challenge you in your faith.

• Faith-Focused Content: Thoughtful essays, guest posts, and practical advice for growing closer to Christ in everyday life.

• Practical Ministry Tips: Resources for parish hospitality, renewal, and effective catechesis.

• Leadership Support: Tools and reflections tailored to ministry leaders, catechists, and those serving in the Church.

• Podcasts: Exclusive content that complements our Draw Near podcast. Additionally, our I See a Movement podcast for those serving in ministry.

• Community: Opportunities to engage with others on a similar journey, sharing questions, struggles, and victories in faith.

Why “Draw Near Collective”? The word “collective” reflects our vision to build a community that celebrates a diversity of voices within the Body of Christ. Here, we feature guest contributors who share their unique perspectives on faith, spirituality, discipleship, and ministry. Together, we learn, grow, and journey toward sainthood—one story, one reflection, and one step at a time.

Join the Movement: We believe in the power of radical love, authentic relationships, and a missionary spirit that sets hearts ablaze. Whether you’re looking for encouragement, community, or practical tools for deepening your faith and transforming your parish, Draw Near Collective is here to walk with you.

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Together, we explore what it means for Jesus to stand before our tombs and call us by name, how we’re invited into community to help “unbind” one another from the grave clothes of fear, shame, and sin, and how the resurrection is not just something we believe in—it’s something we’re called to live.

Whether you're walking through grief, wrestling with God's timing, or just longing for renewal, this episode is a companion for your journey toward Easter joy. You’ll also hear stories from our own lives, encouragement for your spiritual walk, and a Holy Week challenge to invite God into your deepest burdens.

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How is God’s love different from the love we experience from others—or even from ourselves?

What does “coming home to the Father” look like in real life?

And how do we respond when grace feels... unfair?

With humor, vulnerability, and heart, we reflect on the extravagant mercy of God, the wounds we carry in how we love (and fail to love), and the real-life humility it takes to return home—again and again. Whether you relate most to the younger son, the older son, or the waiting father, there’s something here for you.

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“Come, follow me.” (Matthew 4:19)

How we respond matters just as much now as it did then!

That Shoreline Moment
Simon (Peter) and Andrew were just going about their day.
Same routine. Same job. Same nets. Same sea.

And then Jesus shows up. He doesn’t give them a sales pitch.
He doesn’t tell them to go pray about it and get back to Him.
He just says: “Come, follow me.”
And they drop the net. Immediately.

Then He calls James and John. They’re with their father, “mending their nets.”
And again—they drop the net and follow; seemingly leaving their father behind.

Lent Is a Season to Drop the Net
That’s what Lent is about.
It’s not about spiritual performances. It’s not about punishing ourselves or checking boxes.

It’s about this:
Letting go of the nets that keep us from following Jesus.

It’s about surrender.
About returning to the Lord with all our hearts.

And if you're thinking, "Well, I haven’t done much this Lent,” or “It’s probably too late now..."

Let me stop you right there:

It’s not too late.

But Here’s the Thing About Nets...
They catch things.

And when we don’t let them go, when we try to follow Jesus but keep dragging them behind us, they fill up—with stuff we never meant to carry.

The shoreline of the world is littered with many things that get caught in the nets we drag behind us:

• Distraction

• Anxiety

• Pressure

• Comparison

• Division

• Comfort

• Noise

• Greed

• Pride

• Vanity

And the more the net catches, the heavier it becomes.
Eventually, it slows us down.
It keeps us stuck.
It keeps us from being free to move with God.

So Let Me Ask You…
What’s tangled up in your net right now?

Is it the opinions of others weighing you down?

Busyness that leaves no room for stillness?

Choosing comfort over holiness?

The device you can’t seem to put down?

Relying on your own strength instead of God’s?

Unforgiveness you just can’t let go of?

We Say We’re Following… But Are We Dragging the Net?
Sometimes we like the idea of following Jesus—until it costs us something.

Until He asks us to drop something familiar.
Until He invites us into the uncomfortable.
Until He calls us out of the boat and into the deep.

But you can’t follow Jesus and cling to the net.
You can’t carry your cross if your hands are already full.

Discipleship isn’t about convenience—it’s about surrender.

Jesus didn’t say, “Follow me and I’ll make your life easy.”
He said:

“If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” (Mark 8:34)

But I Don’t Feel Ready...
Let me say this plainly:

You have what it takes—because He has given it to you through the power of the Holy Spirit!

Peter didn’t have it all figured out.
He still made mistakes—big ones.
And yet Jesus called him the rock.

God doesn’t wait for you to be perfect.
He’s just asking for your, “Yes”.

He’s asking you to trust that when you drop the net, He’ll fill your hands with something far greater.

There’s Always a Choice
You’re not the rich young man in the Gospel unless you choose to be (Mark 10:17-27).

Remember him?

He wanted to follow Jesus too.
But when Jesus told him to give up what he was holding onto, he walked away sad.

Not angry. Not defiant.

Just… sad.

Because he knew what was being asked of him, and he wasn’t willing to let go.

How many of us know that sadness?

That ache of a restless heart?

That longing to be closer to God, but the refusal to let go of what weighs us down?

The Reward of Surrender
Jesus asks you to drop the net in surrender, because ultimately He wants to make an exchange.

“Truly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or lands, for my sake and for the gospel, who will not receive a hundredfold now... and in the age to come, eternal life.” (Mark 10:29-30)

And Paul writes:

“What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man conceived, what God has prepared for those who love him.” (1 Corinthians 2:9)

What if we lived like that was true?

Because… it is.

The Church Needs Saints, Not Spectators
We talk about the renewal of the Church.
We pray for it.
But do we realize—we just may be the ones God wants to raise up for that very same work?

In every generation, in every crisis, He calls ordinary people to do extraordinary things. I’ll say it again: In every time, in every place, the Lord raises up the right people with the right gifts to meet the needs of the time. Scripture, the history and Tradition of the Church, and the lives of the saints all demonstrate this profound truth.

But it starts with one thing: dropping the net. It starts with you.

Not perfect.
Not polished.
Just willing.

You’re Not Too Late—You’re Right on Time
So wherever you are in this Lent—
If you’ve hit a wall.
If you’ve barely started.
If you’re discouraged or tired or doubting.

Hear this again:

It’s not too late.

Drop the net.

Say yes.

Follow Him.

Not necessarily in some dramatic moment —but in the quiet, daily decisions.

In the way you love your family.
In the way you are available to those who need encouragement.
The way you fight distraction.
The way you turn your heart back to God again and again.

That’s where true greatness is found.

That’s where saints are made.

Closing Reflection
So here it is:

Jesus is still saying:
“Come, follow me.”

Right now.
Today.

The only question is—
Will you drop the net?

Closing Prayer:
Come, Holy Spirit. Inspire our thoughts. Guide our words and direct our actions. May all of these serve to build your kingdom in our hearts, in our homes, in our relationships, and in the world around us. Lord Jesus Christ, as you call us out upon the water, may the Holy Spirit fill us anew, baptize us with fresh fire, and give us the courage to keep our eyes on you in the midst of every storm. Amen.

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Introduction: The Temptation of Power and the Invitation to Love

In the trenches of parish life, leadership can feel like an unending uphill climb. We strive to keep ministries afloat, inspire tired volunteers, launch programs, and maintain morale. But in this well-meaning hustle, many of us—pastors, staff, volunteers—begin to feel hollow, burned out, or disconnected from the joy that once animated our call.

We are not alone in this.

Henri Nouwen, once a renowned professor at Harvard and Yale, left the academic elite to serve in a L’Arche community with men and women with intellectual disabilities. In doing so, he underwent a radical transformation. “I had always considered myself a person who could give something to others,” he wrote. “It had never occurred to me that receiving was also important.”

His book In the Name of Jesus is a clarion call to a different kind of leadership—one rooted not in the need to be relevant, spectacular, or powerful, but in the vulnerability of being led by Christ.

If you’ve read my earlier reflections on Why “Motivating” People in Ministry Doesn’t Work and Why People Serve: Creating a Ministry Culture That Lasts, then this article is the natural next step: it is about rediscovering the heart of parish leadership—not through strategies or hype, but through love, relationship, and faithfulness.

From Relevance to Prayer: “Are You in Love with Jesus?”

“The question is not: How many people take you seriously? Can you show some results? But: Are you in love with Jesus?”
—Henri Nouwen

One of the greatest temptations in parish ministry and leadership is to measure our worth by relevance. It hides behind noble goals—reaching people, growing attendance, revitalizing a ministry—but it can very often subtly turn our gaze inward: Am I doing enough? Am I being effective? Are they impressed? Or, it can shift our focus to things that are of secondary importance: How many people are in the pews? How many volunteers signed up? What programs are thriving? Numbers and perceived performance can become subtle idols that lead us to value the image of productivity over the reality of people and the need for authentic transformation.

Nouwen reminds us that the core of Christian leadership is contemplative prayer. “The central question is whether the future ministers are truly men and women of God,” he says. “People who do not depend on their own success, talents, or power but are deeply in love with Jesus.”

If we look at the example of Jesus, he never sought popularity or human recognition. After healing the sick and feeding the multitudes, He withdrew to pray (Luke 5:26). He did not build His mission around attracting crowds but around transforming hearts.

The painful reality that we have to face is that a parish can have a well-oiled system of programs but lack true discipleship. Nouwen warns against becoming overly focused on administration rather than transformation. Jesus did not build an organization in His earthly ministry; He formed disciples who carried His mission forward. He spent three years deeply investing in a small group of people to evangelize the world.

Practical Guidance for Parish Life:

• Schedule prayer time before scheduling meetings. Let intimacy with Jesus shape your decisions.

• Teach staff and volunteers to measure fruit not by numbers, but by fidelity to the Gospel.

• Create sacred spaces—literally and figuratively—where your team can encounter Christ.

• Measure success by faithfulness, not numbers. Ask: Are people growing in holiness? Are we loving those God has placed before us?

• Create a culture where personal encounter with Christ is the priority in all things. Encourage staff and volunteers to see their work as mission, not obligation.

From Popularity to Ministry: From Hero to Servant

“Ministry is not an individual hero’s story but a communal witness.”
—Henri Nouwen

Parish leaders often feel pressure to be “the one.” The indispensable person. The hero. This pressure is deadly. Not only is it unsustainable, but once again, it does not seem to model Christ’s example very closely.

Jesus refused the temptation of spectacle in the desert (Matthew 4). He didn’t build His credibility by impressing crowds but by loving them. Likewise, Nouwen teaches that ministry is not about dazzling others with our gifts. “The Christian leader is called to help people hear the gentle voice of God in the midst of a noisy world.”

When we obsess over how our work in ministry is perceived, or whether we are liked or accepted, or the backlash that may come if we pursue a needed change, we block the beautiful movement of God’s grace. I once worked with an understaffed parish and, when I asked what the parish was doing in terms of evangelization and outreach, the response was that they were polling the surrounding community to get a sense of how the parish was perceived by the public before doing any evangelization. Imagine if the Apostles had done that at Pentecost! They’d still be waiting in that Upper Room. No doubt, there were people in the parish already who would have loved the opportunity to evangelize, if it was presented to them – and likely with little concern for the poll results.

Practical Guidance:

• Stop trying to be impressive. Be present.

• Name and affirm the gifts of others—especially those who serve behind the scenes.

• Encourage team members to work from identity, not insecurity.

• Build a culture of trust. Avoid micromanaging; instead, form and equip others to utilize their gifts for the sake of mission.

• Encourage open communication. Allow parishioners to voice concerns without fear; and do your best not to take it personally when some may disagree.

• Prioritize people over programs. Volunteers and staff should feel valued as individuals, not just as “workers.”

• Invest in mentorship. Both a mentor of your own as well as mentoring others in your parish.

• Move beyond events to transformation. Every ministry should focus on forming disciples, not just filling calendars.

From Leading to Being Led: The Power of Vulnerability

“The way of the Christian leader is not the way of upward mobility but the way of downward mobility.”
—Henri Nouwen

Jesus told Peter, “When you were younger, you fastened your own belt and went where you wanted… but when you grow old, you will stretch out your hands and be lead where you do not want to go” (John 21:18). Leadership is not about gaining control—it’s about learning to surrender.

This surrender is terrifying. But it’s holy and necessary.

In L’Arche, Nouwen discovered that the greatest gift he had to offer wasn’t his intellect, resume, or eloquence. It was his vulnerable self. “We are not the healers… We are sinful, broken, vulnerable people who need as much care as anyone we care for.”

In parish life, leaders must be willing to be led—by Christ, by community, and even by those they serve. This is the crucified path of leadership.

Practical Guidance:

• Don’t hide your struggles—let others see your humanity. There is something to be said for the fact that Jesus’ followers saw him weep, grow tired, bleed and die on the Cross. He made no effort to disguise His suffering. All the more reason we can unite our sufferings to His.

• Ask for help. Let others carry part of the burden. Even Jesus had Simon of Cyrene.

• Trust your team. Empower them not just with tasks, but with trust. Enter Peter and the rest of the Apostles.

From the Catechism:
“Christ's kingship is shown above all in the humble service of his life and death.” (CCC 786)

From Programs to Discipleship: Investing in People More Than Performance

“The mystery of ministry is that we have been chosen to make our own limited and very conditional love the gateway for the unlimited and unconditional love of God.”
—Henri Nouwen

Too many parishes are teeming with activity but starved for encounter.

It’s easy to fall into administrative overload, churning out events and programs with little time for the slow, relational work of disciple-making. But Jesus didn’t build systems—He built people.

And that’s our call too.

Practical Guidance:

• Personally mentor one or two parishioners into deeper discipleship.

• Discern what ministries are bearing real fruit—and have the courage to prune the rest.

• Invest in spiritual formation opportunities for your team.

From Performance to Belovedness: Living from the Father’s Love

“The leaders of the future will be those who dare to claim their irrelevance in the contemporary world as a divine vocation.”
—Henri Nouwen

This is the linchpin of Nouwen’s message—and the Gospel.

You are not the sum of your parish’s success. You are not your title or your accomplishments. You are not your failures or your burnout. You are a beloved son or daughter of God.

Parish leaders who know they are loved—truly loved—lead differently. They serve from fullness, not fear. They sacrifice without resentment. They remain faithful even when fruit is invisible.

You do not need to be spectacular. You just need to be faithful.

“The central question is not ‘What can we do?’ but ‘Who are we called to be?’” –Nouwen

Conclusion: Leading in the Name of Jesus

“Christian leadership must be rooted in the permanent, intimate relationship with the incarnate Word, Jesus.”
—Henri Nouwen

The renewal of the Church will not come from better strategies. It will come from deeper holiness. From men and women who lead not with ego, but with Eucharist. Who carry towels instead of titles. Who sit with Jesus before speaking for Him. Who dare to become irrelevant in the world’s eyes so they might become radiant in God’s.

You were never meant to do this alone. Jesus is with you. The saints are cheering you on. And your small, hidden acts of love are more powerful than you know.

Let us lead in the name of Jesus—with trust, sacrifice, and love.

For Reflection and Prayer

Share this post with someone in ministry you care about. Set aside 10 minutes this week to pray with one of these Scripture passages together (even if remote).

Scripture for Meditation:

• John 21:15-19 – “Do you love me?”

• Matthew 4:1-11 – Jesus’ temptations

• John 13:12-17 – Washing of feet

• Philippians 2:5-11 – The humility of Christ
  

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Catechism References:

• CCC 2567 – God’s invitation to prayer

• CCC 786 – Christ’s kingship expressed in service

• CCC 2447 – Service to the poor and vulnerable

• CCC 875, 918 – Servant nature of ministry

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How is your Lent going? Does it feel like a scenic drive down a California highway, wind in your hair, Katrina Wave’s “I’m Walking on Sunshine” playing and the sun shining? These 40 days will be smooth sailing you think? Or do you feel more like you’re stuck on the side of an icy Iowa road, spinning your wheels, listening to RUN DMC’s “Hard Times” and wondering if you’ll ever make it to the end?

No matter where you find yourself, one thing is certain: Lent is a journey, and it is not always easy. At some point, we all hit a wall. The enthusiasm we had at the start fades, and we find ourselves struggling, falling short of our own expectations, wondering, Am I even doing this right?

If you’ve ever felt that way, let me tell you something: you are not alone.

The Training Ground of Lent

I recently learned that the word dōjō means “place of the way.” It’s often associated with martial arts, but I recently heard the parish church described as a dōjō—a place where we train, grow, and learn under the guidance of a master. What a radical way of thinking about our faith!

Each time we come to Mass, we enter the dōjō, ready to learn. We listen to Scripture, receive wisdom from our spiritual teachers, and most importantly, sit at the feet of Jesus, our ultimate sensei. He is the one who trains us in holiness, who teaches us how to endure trials, and who reminds us that when we fall, we are not meant to stay down.

But training is hard. Growth is hard. And let’s be honest—Lent is hard.

Falling Short, but Never Falling Away

Maybe you started Lent strong, full of good intentions, only to find yourself slipping just a few days in. Life got busy. Old habits persisted. And suddenly, your Lenten sacrifices felt more like a reminder of failure than a path to holiness.

I know that feeling well.

This year, I was reminded just how fragile my own efforts can be. My family has followed a primarily plant-based diet for years, so abstaining from meat on Fridays was never difficult for me. But with a recent gluten allergy diagnosis, I had to change my diet—bringing meat back into my meals. Wouldn’t you know it? Three days into Lent, on the very first Friday, I completely forgot and ate meat.

I felt awful. Not just because of the mistake, but because deep down, I already felt like I wasn’t measuring up.

But God is so good.

The next morning, I was reminded of these words from Lamentations 3:21-24:

But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness.

Lent isn’t about getting it perfect. Lent is about learning how much we need God’s grace.

Jesus Himself tells us:

“I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in me, and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5)

That means when we fall short, we have two choices. We can stay down, discouraged, and convince ourselves that holiness is too far out of reach… or we can get back up, lean on God’s mercy, and keep moving forward in love. After all, in this dojo, that is the only way to advance the belt rank.

Even the saints had to do this. St. Paul himself admitted:

“The things that I want to do, I don’t do. And the things I don’t want to do, I do.” (Romans 7:15-20)

St. Maximilian Kolbe put it beautifully:

“The widespread idea that the saints were people dissimilar to us is false… Even they had to endure temptations, even they fell and got up again, even they were oppressed by sadness, weakened and paralyzed with discouragement… but they did not rely on themselves. They put all their trust in God. After every fall, they humbled themselves, repented, and then continued immediately to work with even greater zeal.”

This is what Lent is about. It’s not about perfect execution. It’s about training in trust. It’s about offering everything—our struggles, our failures, our victories—to Christ, and letting Him strengthen us.

The Invitation to Keep Going

So if you’re struggling this Lent, take heart. Maybe you feel like you’re stuck in a spiritual snowstorm, wheels spinning, unsure if you’ll ever make it through. Maybe you feel like you’ve hit the proverbial wall. Maybe you feel like you will never land that crane kick against that temptation that seems to bully you.

But here’s the good news: Jesus is right there with you.

He never asks us to walk this path alone. He simply asks us to keep going. To trust Him. To get back up. To keep loving.

Because when we do, we learn the secret of the saints:

His mercies are new every morning.

And with every fall, every struggle, and every step forward, we are drawing near to Him.

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This raises an important question:

What actually inspires people to serve in ministry?
Why do some people joyfully commit while others hesitate? What makes a volunteer stay engaged for years while others burn out? And how can we, as parish leaders, invite people into ministry in a way that truly resonates with them?

The Power of “Why” in Ministry
In his book Start With Why, leadership expert Simon Sinek argues that the most successful organizations and movements don’t just focus on what they do or how they do it—they begin with a clear and compelling “why”. In other words, people don’t commit long-term because of logistics, efficiency, or urgency. They commit because they believe in the mission!

This principle applies just as much to the Church (and the local parish) as it does to businesses and organizations. If we want people to engage in ministry, we need to articulate why ministry exists in the first place—not just what we do and how we do it.

This idea is not new to the Church. From the very beginning, the Apostles preached not just what to do but why we follow Christ; and this teaching is rooted in the words of Christ himself.

“You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide…” (John 15:16, RSVCE)

We serve because Christ first loved us. We share in ministry because He has entrusted us with His mission (Matthew 28:19-20). If we communicate this deep sense of purpose with authentic enthusiasm and joy that springs from heartfelt conviction deeply rooted in loving relationship with Christ, people will want to be part of that “something greater than themselves.”

Pope Francis reinforces this in Evangelii Gaudium:
“Every Christian is challenged, here and now, to be actively engaged in evangelization; indeed, anyone who has truly experienced God’s saving love does not need much time or lengthy training to go out and proclaim that love.” (Evangelii Gaudium, 131)

If our invitation into ministry is about tasks and quotas rather than mission, people will disengage. But if we invite them into something greater than themselves, their hearts will be stirred.

Start With Why: Why Does Your Parish’s Ministry Exist?
Many parishes operate in the “what” and “how” of ministry:

• What do we do? → We run religious education, outreach programs, liturgical ministries, etc.

• How do we do it? → We hold classes, organize volunteers, plan events, recruit people, etc.

But these are not the real reasons why ministry exists.

Instead, we should start by asking: Why does this ministry exist? Why do we do what we do?

• Is it to bring people closer to Christ?

• Is it to help people encounter God’s love in community?

• Is it to form disciples who transform the world?

When the “why” is clear, people are far more likely to say, “Yes, I want to be part of that.”

Once again, we turn to Pope Francis’ vision of the Church as a community of evangelizers:
“In all its activities the parish encourages and trains its members to be evangelizers. It is a community of communities, a sanctuary where the thirsty come to drink in the midst of their journey, and a center of constant missionary outreach.” (EG, 28)

When people know why they are serving, their commitment becomes rooted in Christ’s own mission, not merely obligation.

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” (Colossians 3:23, RSVCE)

Helping People Find Their Personal “Why” in Ministry
Just as parishes need to define their big-picture purpose, volunteers need to find their personal “why” in serving.

In Find Your Why, Simon Sinek emphasizes that people are most committed when their work aligns with a deep, personal sense of purpose. The same is true in ministry—when someone lacks a clear “why” for serving, burnout becomes much more likely. But even more importantly, if that sense of purpose isn’t rooted in a real relationship with Christ, perseverance becomes much harder when challenges arise. Without Him as the foundation, ministry can feel like just another obligation rather than a joyful response to His call.

Helping Volunteers Discover Their Why
Instead of simply asking for volunteers, what if we helped people discern where God is calling them?

When inviting people into ministry, ask them:

· What brings you joy?

· When have you felt closest to God?

· What are some gifts or talents you feel called to use for others?

· Where do you feel like you can make a difference?

By connecting people’s personal sense of purpose with the larger mission of the Church, we help them to serve not out of obligation, but out of conviction, rooted in their own encounter with Christ and an awareness of the gifts that God has given them.

“And his gifts were that some should be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, some pastors and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ.” (Ephesians 4:11-12, RSVCE)

Encouragement for Overwhelmed Leaders: It Takes Time
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by all of this, you’re not alone. Many parish leaders already feel stretched thin, and the idea of changing how ministry operates may seem like just one more burden. But take heart—this is not about adding more work to your plate. It’s about approaching ministry in a way that ultimately makes it more sustainable and fruitful.

Even Jesus didn’t form His disciples in a single day—He walked with them, patiently formed them, and trusted them to grow. Change in a parish takes time, and that’s okay. Trust that God is at work in your ministry, and allow yourself the grace to take this process one step at a time. You are not alone in this! The person that knows best how to bring renewal to your parish is already there. He has been there this whole time. This person is, of course, the Holy Spirit, who is moving in the hearts of those He is calling to serve.

“Do not grow weary in well-doing, for in due season we shall reap, if we do not lose heart.” (Galatians 6:9, RSVCE)

Final Encouragement: The Church Needs Your Why
Scripture and the history of the Church demonstrate that God always raises up the right people with the right gifts to meet the needs of the time. When we trust God, invite people into mission rather than obligation, and help them discover why their service matters, ministry becomes a place of joy, not just responsibility.

If we want thriving parishes, we must start with ‘why’—not just as a leadership strategy, but as a response to Christ’s call to discipleship. When people encounter Jesus and understand that ministry is not just about tasks but about sharing in His mission of salvation, service becomes an act of love rather than mere obligation. When we help others root their ‘why’ in Christ, ministry is no longer just something they do—it becomes a response to the One who first loved us. And in that response, both individuals and parishes are renewed.

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Or maybe you do get volunteers, but they seem disengaged—just going through the motions, showing up out of obligation – or potentially a feeling of guilt – rather than conviction. You might have even watched good, faithful people completely burn out and quietly step away, never to return. It can leave you wondering, What’s going wrong? Why do people seem so hesitant or uncommitted? Why can’t we get (and keep) volunteers?

Let’s be honest—guilt, obligation, and pressure rarely inspire lasting commitment in ministry. Think about your own life: when was the last time you felt truly joyful or energized to serve because you were pressured into it? While duty and responsibility have their place—especially in the life of faith—people are not deeply motivated by guilt. Instead, true and lasting commitment comes when we recognize that our service is a response to God’s love, not a burden to carry. What if, instead of seemingly pressuring people to fill a role, we invited them to discover how God is calling them to serve with joy? Could we help them to see that serving in such a way will help them to fulfill a longing of their heart through utilizing the gifts God has given them, in a way He just may intend?

Many parish leaders try to motivate people by telling them how badly they are needed. I am guilty of this as much as anyone! We emphasize how the parish “can’t function” without volunteers or remind people that “if we don’t get more help, we’ll have to cancel this ministry.” And while those concerns are real, they don’t inspire people to serve joyfully and wholeheartedly.

Susan Fowler’s book, Why Motivating People Doesn’t Work… and What Does, challenges us to rethink everything we know about motivation—especially in leadership. She explains that external motivators (like rewards, recognition, pressure, or even guilt) don’t create lasting engagement. Instead, people thrive when they experience:

• Autonomy – The freedom to make meaningful choices.

• Relatedness – A sense of belonging and purpose.

• Competence – The confidence that they’re making a difference.

Many Parishes Struggle with Volunteers—But What If the Problem Isn’t People’s Willingness, But the Way We Invite Them?

Instead of simply asking for help, what if we invited people into mission—helping them see their gifts and how God may be calling them to serve? When people feel personally called and equipped, they are far more likely to step up and remain engaged.

A Note on Secular Leadership Models & Catholic Ministry
Fowler’s research is valuable in understanding how people are wired, but as Catholics, we know that ministry is ultimately driven by grace, not just psychology or even biology.

It is God who calls, sustains, and strengthens people for service. If we rely only on motivational strategies but neglect the action of the Holy Spirit, our ministries will always struggle to bear fruit.

St. Paul reminds us:
“By the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain.” (1 Corinthians 15:10, RSVCE)

Ministry is not just about filling roles or “getting people involved”—it’s about helping people recognize and respond to God’s call on their lives.

So, what if we stopped trying to “motivate” people with urgency and obligation, and instead invited them into a transformative encounter with Christ through their service? What if we elevated this transformative encounter above simply “getting involved?”

Shift from “Recruiting” to “Discerning”
Our approach to finding volunteers for ministry can, at times, seem more like recruiting for a job rather than inviting someone into their calling.

We make urgent appeals:

• “We desperately need more catechists!”

• If we don’t get enough volunteers, we’ll have to cancel this program.”

• “Come on, can you spare an hour?”

Now, none of these statements are wrong—but they don’t inspire people. Instead, they make ministry sound like a burden, not an invitation.

Imagine if instead, we framed ministry as an opportunity for deeper discipleship and growth in Christ:

• “Where do you feel God calling you to serve in our parish?”

• “Your gifts are needed in the Church. Have you considered how God might want to work through you in ministry?”

• “I see in you a real gift for hospitality. Have you ever considered serving as a greeter?”

Ministry is both a calling and a sacrifice. Just as Christ called His disciples into mission out of love, our service should flow from both obedience to God and the deep joy of knowing we are serving Him.

Biblical & Catechetical Wisdom:

• “As each has received a gift, employ it for one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.” (1 Peter 4:10, RSVCE)

• · “Lay believers are in the front line of Church life… they ought to have an ever-clearer consciousness not only of belonging to the Church, but of being the Church.” (Christifideles Laici, 9)

The shift from recruiting to discerning recognizes that ministry isn’t just about filling gaps—it’s about helping people respond to God’s call.

Follow Christ’s Example: Call, Empower, and Trust Others
It’s a common challenge in parish life: some leaders try to do everything themselves. Often, this happens not out of a desire to control, but out of a deep love for the Church and a fear that things won’t get done. Perhaps, for some, it may even come from years of experiencing difficulty in finding volunteers.

But the ministry of the Church (and the local parish) was never meant to be carried out alone.

Jesus, the Son of God Himself, did not carry out His mission alone. He called disciples, equipped them, and sent them forth. He could have single-handedly preached the Gospel to every corner of the world, but instead, He entrusted His mission to ordinary men and women.

• · “And he appointed twelve, to be with him, and to be sent out to preach.” (Mark 3:14, RSVCE)

• · “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who believes in me will also do the works that I do; and greater works than these will he do, because I go to the Father.” (John 14:12, RSVCE)

Rather than holding onto every responsibility, Jesus empowered His followers—not because He needed help, but because it was part of forming them as disciples. Certainly, God Himself could be more effective at this ministry. Yet, He calls us to participate. Why? Because He loves us; and there is something to be gained in allowing us to do the great work with Him.

In the same way, pastors, ministry leaders, and volunteers are called not just to do ministry but to raise up others to share in the work of Christ.

• · “And his gifts were that some should be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, some pastors and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ.” (Eph 4:11-12)

Pope Francis reminds us of this in his first encyclical, The Joy of the Gospel:

• “In all its activities the parish encourages and trains its members to be evangelizers. It is a community of communities, a sanctuary where the thirsty come to drink in the midst of their journey, and a center of constant missionary outreach.” (EG 28)

• “I dream of a “missionary option”, that is, a missionary impulse capable of transforming everything, so that the Church’s customs, ways of doing things, times and schedules, language and structures can be suitably channeled for the evangelization of today’s world rather than for her self-preservation.” (EG 27)

• “Pastoral ministry in a missionary key seeks to abandon the complacent attitude that says: ‘We have always done it this way.’ I invite everyone to be bold and creative in the task of rethinking the goal, structures, style and methods of evangelization in their respective communities.” (EG 33)

And again, in the words of Pope Benedict XVI: “It is necessary to improve pastoral structures in such a way that the co-responsibility of all the members of the People of God in their entirety is gradually promoted, with respect for vocations and for the respective roles of the consecrated and of lay people. This demands a change in mindset, particularly concerning lay people. They must no longer be viewed as "collaborators" of the clergy but truly recognized as "co-responsible", for the Church's being and action, thereby fostering the consolidation of a mature and committed laity.”

Susan Fowler’s analogy is fitting:

“You don’t grow a flower by pulling on its leaves; you create the right conditions for it to flourish.”

Creating Space for Handing On Parish Ministries to the Next Generation
One of the most frequent concerns I hear is that ‘young people’ won’t get involved. Ministries often continue unchanged until they can no longer sustain themselves due to volunteers aging out. This is unfortunate. However, if we return to Fowler’s stated effective motivators, one of the primary challenges I believe becomes clear.

• Are we creating spaces where “young people” (interpret as you wish in your parish setting) can truly get involved?

• Are we creating spaces where they can exercise autonomy? Relatedness? Competence?

• Are we helping them to feel like they are making a difference?

Or are we simply relegating them to the sidelines and telling them, “This is how we have always done it.” This is not to be critical. I would prefer to present this as an “encouraging challenge” for prayerful consideration.

Overcoming Obstacles & Taking the First Steps
Shifting from a recruitment mindset to a discernment culture can feel like a daunting task, especially if your parish has been doing things the same way for years. You might wonder, Where do I even begin? The good news is that even small, intentional changes can have a big impact. You don’t have to overhaul your entire ministry structure overnight. Start with one simple shift—perhaps rewording your next volunteer invitation to focus on calling and mission rather than urgency and obligation. Or take time this week to personally invite just one person into ministry by affirming a gift you see in them. These small steps build momentum, and over time, they can transform the way people engage with ministry in your parish.

Encouragement for Overwhelmed Leaders: It Takes Time
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by all of this, you’re not alone. Many parish leaders already feel stretched thin, and the idea of changing how ministry operates may seem like just one more burden. But take heart—this is not about adding more work to your plate. It’s about approaching ministry in a way that ultimately makes it more sustainable. Even Jesus didn’t form His disciples in a single day—He walked with them, patiently formed them, and trusted them to grow. Change in a parish takes time, and that’s okay. Trust that God is at work in your ministry, and allow yourself the grace to take this process one step at a time. You are not alone in this—God is with you, and the Holy Spirit is moving in the hearts of those He is calling to serve.

Final Encouragement: Leading Like Christ
At the end of the day, Christ invites us to lead as He led:

• By calling people into mission, not just assigning tasks.

• By trusting and empowering others, even when it feels risky.

• By seeing leadership as a way to form disciples, not just to get things done.

If we survey the history of the Church, and even look at the example of Scripture, one thing becomes abundantly clear: In every time and in every place the Lord raises up the right people with the right gifts to meet the needs of the times.

If we trust the Lord that remains the same yesterday, today, and forever, and if we therefore trust the people God has placed in our parishes, if we call forth their gifts, provide them opportunities to serve and discern those gifts, and if we walk with them as they grow, we will see a transformation in ministry—not just in efficiency, but in discipleship and joy.

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As I began to pray, the familiar rhythm of the words settled my restless heart. My mind, so overwhelmed with worry, started to quiet. Instead of replaying the problem over and over, I found myself drawn into the mysteries of Christ’s life. The weight of my anxiety slowly lifted. I wasn’t in control—but I didn’t need to be.

Then, as I whispered “Amen,” my phone rang.

The situation had been resolved.

Not by my effort. Not by my striving. But in the moment I surrendered, asking for Our Lady’s intercession and turning my gaze back to Christ, peace entered where my own strength had failed.

Now, does every Rosary I pray unfold like this? No. Sometimes, my mind is scattered. I battle distractions—thinking about my to-do list, replaying conversations, or even wondering whether Tom Brady will win another Super Bowl.

But I’ve learned something vital: distraction doesn’t mean prayer is wasted.

The saints remind us that prayer is a battle. St. Paul tells us that our struggle is not against flesh and blood—we are in a spiritual war, and prayer is one of our most powerful weapons. The enemy wants us to believe our distractions make our prayer ineffective. He wants us to get discouraged and give up. But here’s the truth: every effort to pray, no matter how weak or distracted, is an act of faith.

Even when our minds wander, prayer trains our hearts. Our distractions can reveal what holds too much space in our souls, gently guiding us toward deeper surrender. These distractions can also reveal situations and intentions that we need to pray for! Regardless, in the face of discrations, the key is humility—acknowledging our weakness and showing up anyway. Prayer isn’t about getting it perfect; it’s about choosing to be in God’s presence, again and again.

And for me, the Rosary has been one of the greatest tools in this battle. It grounds me. It draws me back to Christ. It reminds me that even when I feel powerless, heaven is not silent.

So, I want to challenge you.

For the next 30 days, commit to praying the Rosary each day. Even if you’re skeptical. Even if you think you won’t do it “right.” Just start. Let the mysteries speak to your heart. Let Our Lady lead you closer to her Son.

You might just find, like I did, that peace doesn’t come from having all the answers—but from knowing exactly where to turn.

Will you take the challenge?

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As I reflect on my own journey, the weight of my shortcomings begins to press on me. My impatience with God’s plan leads to frustration. My confidence in my leadership feels thin as I witness others not following. These negative thoughts bring me down, making me feel like I’m failing. But then I hear Jesus’ words and remember that I’m doing my best—and He is there for me:

“Blessed are you who are poor, for the kingdom of God is yours.
Blessed are you who are now hungry, for you will be satisfied.
Blessed are you who are now weeping, for you will laugh.”

Nothing brought this truth home more clearly than what my son did today. I do my best to show my son how we should act in public—not only displaying social norms but also God's love. While I have been struggling with feelings of inadequacy as a leader when he has disruptive or disobedient moments, today he put his arm around me after Communion and started rubbing my back. This simple act of love and kindness—something he usually shares with those he has a deep relationship with—melted away my worries about being an inadequate parent. How beautiful it was to have this moment align with Our Lord’s words in the Gospel.

So as we approach Lent, and when you feel like you aren’t doing enough, just try your best—because you’re only human, and a man’s gotta learn to take it. Try to believe, even when the going gets rough, that you’ve gotta hang tough to make it.

You’re the best around. Nothing’s gonna ever keep you down.

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